What will you do in 2014?
Its been exactly one week since New Years. So we’ve all had time to make those New Years Resolutions or should I say break those New Years resolutions?
Every year we whip out the champagne (that is if you’re doing it right), celebrate the memories we have made and look forward to the upcoming events the new year has to bring us. We note the highlights of the year and reminisce about our highs and lows. The moments of devastation and heartbreak, the times we laughed so hard we cried and the moments we felt pure, unfiltered, joy. Then we make way for the new. We remove unnecessary things from our lives (such as all the junk food in the house) and pursue things that have greater meaning, that make us feel empowered. We set goals for ourselves and timelines to achieve them.
This whole “A new year brings out a whole new you” speech has been given time and time again. I have heard it, seen it and said it.
“This year is a new year.”
“Things will be different this time.”
“I am more determined this year than I was last year.”
It’s the same story every time. What people don’t seem to realize is that Jan 1 of the new year is a date on a calendar. It is not a magic erase marker, a fairy godmother who will make all your wishes come true, or a special gift that gives you courage and determination to do all the things that you didn’t do last year. You, at any time have the ability to change yourself or anything in your life that makes you unhappy. A whole whooping 365 days (or 364.25 if you want to get technical) that allow you to take that first step, put your plans into action and change something. It isn’t one day – a symbol – in the whole year that grants you permission to make yourself better. You give yourself permission to do anything in life, and you also give yourself permission to fail at anything in life.
One of the best lessons I have learnt is this:
“If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life.” – Jack Canfield
Which means that each moment that you wake, move, think, breathe is your responsibility. The idea of someone breathing for you is utterly absurd, you have to do it yourself in order to survive. The notion that someone will take responsibility for you is just as preposterous; you have to do it in order to take control of your life. You don’t just hold the key, you ARE the key to your own potential.
If you don’t like something then Change it. If you can’t or are unwilling to change it- then accept it. Because blaming others, the situation, or destiny for frowning upon you will not create action. So New Years resolution or not, you need to remember that a new year isn’t a new you.